As I go through my own grief, I feel like I go through these moments of learning or at least deep thinking. Like, what am I going through and what am I learning from this? All this is because I know that God has a plan for this ~ whether it be personal growth and understanding, or someday helping someone else in their own time of grieving.
Sometimes I get so deep that I just want to lay around and think rather than do. I don’t want to hang out with anyone and I feel like no one would understand where I’m coming from.
What I realize is that, knowing that life is so short, in times of grief especially, wouldn’t it make more sense to spend as much time as you can with the loved ones that are here? It wouldn’t be good to let the days and weeks slip by without being with them completely while you had the chance. How awful would it be to be so deep in grief that you miss those opportunities of investment and then they slip away as well?
On the flip side, it’s unfair to rush our grief, to push it aside or not let it process. Grief is a part of life I’ve learned. Whether we admit it or not, grief is going to happen and it’s going to effect us. It’s up to us to let it be positive and to also respond in a Godly fashion.
How do you respond to grief?
Responding to grief may at first seem like just going through it, letting it happen. What do you do months down the road from the initial impact?
It takes serious reflection and relying on God’s truths that are held within the binding of the Bible. Whatever you do, your response should be productive and positive, fruitful and obedient to whatever God is calling you to.
No matter what, it’s important to remember that God has a plan for this period ~ however long it lasts.
For me, right now, it feels like it’ll never end. To some extent, that’s very true. I don’t believe you ever get over missing a parent or even a sibling or anyone you’ve been especially close to, from what I’ve heard from others who have lost those loved ones. The only thing we can count on is some day being able to live a new normal without them, always remembering, and always being thankful.
May God give you more and more grace and peace as you grow in your knowledge of God and Jesus our Lord.2 Peter 1:2