A piece of wisdom I picked up over the years that sometimes doesn’t always come to the forefront of my mind is that…
You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person.
I’m not sure where that originated or where I first heard that, but it has stuck with me for a while.
Sometimes I feel lost when it comes to meeting new people in general. What if I say the wrong thing? What if they think this or that?
I feel that way just thinking about talking to a male 😂
Which is ridiculous… in both cases.
I think back on this nugget and I’m like… so what if they don’t respond. I mean, sure, it stinks, but…
I then think about when my Dad was encouraging me, especially during interview time when I was looking for jobs. He said,
Just be yourself and they’ll love you.
That was the most encouraging part – just a simple truth. But what it means is, the right fit – whether it’s a person or a company – will work out. You don’t have to be someone you’re not, you don’t have to worry about saying the right or wrong thing.
My dad had way more confidence in me than I feel I’ll ever have in myself (but God is working on me) and I try to channel that at times.
Rejection stinks. Like, it’s the worst. But better to be rejected by the wrong people than accepted by them, I think.
If you’re struggling with rejection – whether by individual or maybe a company – you’re not alone. Rejection can be a sign from God that it’s not right or maybe it’s a “not right now” sign.
I’ve had to seek God and ask for help removing the burden of rejection. I can’t hold onto it. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of because I just wanna know why, but we don’t always get those answers. We have to trust fully in the One with the good plan and purpose for us that it wasn’t meant to be.
What kind of rejection have you felt recently and how did you deal with it?
Not Your Season: Summer's Blog 
Interesting question, Summer, and one that can raise many responses. How heartwarming that you have the confidence from your father embedded in your heart. I deal with rejection similar to your post, but settled in my heart are verses from Revelation 3:7-9. Once God opens a door, no one can shut it—not even the ones responsible for the rejection. Discerning whether the closed door was by God’s hand or those opposed to me helped me get past the rejection. Many times I found opposers rejected God in me, not me. Also, in the workplace, someone shared with me a statistic that encouraged me to focus on how I phrased my speech and writing. It went like this: the 500 most used words in English have over 5,000 meanings. Bottom line, it’s not the definitions, but the negative connotations associated with some words (based on culture, age, gender, etc.) that can turn off listeners.
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